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In fact, the Irish women typically had romantic partners who didn't read much.
Both teachers have read most of the selections, and indeed, purchased most of their books with their own money.
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In other words, many of us had stories about dudes on dates being weirdly condescending about books and reading, aka “literary mansplaining.”So, to help people do bookish dating better, we’ve compiled a helpful list of the DO’s and DON’Ts for dating a reader: DO: Ask them about what they’re currently reading DON’T: Tell them why you’d never read that book/genre DO: Pick someone up in a bookstore by offering to buy whatever book they’re holding (like buying someone a drink in a bar)DON’T: Buy random hardcovers as gifts to give on the second date, apropos of nothing (this too often involves condescending assumptions about what a near stranger has or hasn’t read)ALSO, DON’T: Buy them a self-help book about dating/relationships (yep, this happened)DO: Ask them for recommendations DON’T: Assume someone who tells you they’re an avid reader hasn’t heard of Franzen DO: Engage in discussions about books you each liked or disliked and why DON’T: Tell them why Hemingway really is the greatest and that maybe they just don’t “like academic writing” or “writing you really have to think about”ALSO, DON’T: Talk about why you “just can’t get into” reading books written by women (or people of color, LGBTQ folks, etc)DO: Plan fun, literary dates like bookstore tours, going to the library, or doing some literary tourism DON’T: Take your date to the bookstore, then just follow them around and hover awkwardly while they browse DO: Make thoughtful recommendations based on books they’ve told you they liked DON’T: Hand them a stack of books written by white dudes that you “really think they need to read” (we’ve heard of them, we promise)And, finally…DO: Be a decent human DON’T: Be a jerk That’s it!
Do you have any stories of weird things that have happened to you after you told your date you’re a reader?